Sunday, July 3, 2022

Brutally honest uncle speaks ill of departed nephew at funeral

Funerals are often an occasion for sugar-coated speeches about the character of a deceased person.
After Oduetse Tshekiso from Gabane killed himself, leaving a suicide note on January 12, his funeral started out as the usual somber event, with speeches about how, though with flaws like any other human, he was helpful to society.

A police man, Vincent Kenosi, said ‘Zim’, as Tshekiso was popularly known, had both a good and bad side to him.

But Kenosi focused on the good side.

“We as law enforcing agencies found him very helpful as an informer,” Kenosi said. “There were times when he helped us when we were looking for criminals whom he knew or was acquainted to. Some of us could bring him to order when he went too far,” he said, amid murmuring from the mourners.
When the deceased’s aunt told of how her nephew suffered from a mental illness that was diagnosed when it was too late, there was very little to shake the somber funereal atmosphere at the burial site.

Then Mogotsi Madisakwane, the deceased’s uncle spoke, and the Sunday somber mood turned into one mixed with amusement and surprise. Taking the Christian ethic that the truth shall set you free, the elderly man let it all out.

“Mosimane yo o ne a le ditiro di maswe. O ne a le bosilo. O ne a sa kake a lebaganya matlho le wena. E ne e retshwanetse go go leba a bo a ribega sefatlhogo. Batho ba ne ba mo tshaba le mmaagwe tota o ne a mo tshaba. Re tshwanetse go ne re bua nnete fele ka se motho e ne ele sone mo botshelong. Fa ele gore mongwe o a kgopisega ka se se buiwang, a a kgopisege a ye koo. (This boy was a criminal. He liked fighting. He usually buried his face and would not stand face to face with anyone. People feared him. Even his own mother feared him. We should in times like these tell the truth about what a person truly was when he was alive, instead of praising them over nothing. If anyone is annoyed then let them go wherever they can),” railed Madisakwane.

There was muffled laughter from some of the mourners, while others stiffened their bodies, aghast at the old man’s brave utterances. There were many exchanged glances as the old man’s shaky voice rang out with the words.

Madisakwane further explained that his nephew, Tshekiso, habitually stole people’s properties. He said the young man had once threatened to seriously hurt him; it was why they no longer lived together at the time of his death.

As the mourners gaped at him, the old man told them how, after living together at the cattle post, his nephew had provoked a heated exchange of words, resulting in threats of physically harming Madisakwane. The matter was not reported to the police, but the two parted ways.

“In September last year he confessed to murdering his lover,” Madisakwane told the mourners. “But because of this modern government where everyone has rights he was bailed out after a short stay in prison. We are already gathered here following his suicide. He was found hanging from a tree this Wednesday,” the old man said.


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