Wednesday, July 6, 2022


Vengeance is mine…” the Lord says in Romans 12 v 19 but we never listen do we?

When someone wrongs us, we try to find some devious way to engage retribution or revenge.

And a scorned lover, especially one unceremoniously dumped, thinks of nothing but the most painful way to retaliate and give the absconding former Sweetheart a taste of their own medicine.

There are many online sites that offer people tips on how to revenge in the most painful way.

Wikipedia, without giving any citation, says that some societies feel that the threat of revenge is necessary to maintain a just society.
“In some societies, it is believed that the punishment in revenge should be more than the original injury, as a punitive measure,” it says.

It goes on to say that The Old Testament philosophy of “an eye for an eye” (Exodus 21:24) “tried to moderate the allowed damage, in order to avoid a vendetta or series of violent acts that could spiral out of controlÔÇöinstead of ‘tenfold’ vengeance, there would be a simple ‘equality of suffering’.”
“Detractors argue that revenge is a simple logical fallacy, of the same design as “two wrongs make a right.” Some Christians interpret Paul’s “Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord” (Romans 12:19, King James Version) to mean that only God has the moral right to exact revenge.
The Sharia Laws immediately come to mind where, after conviction, a thief might lose his hand or such thing.

Indeed, every major religious system contains some method for the mediation of disputes and for the limitation of vengeance by imputing a sense of cosmic justice to replace the often faulty justice systems of the world of men.
In The Penal System: An Introduction (2nd ed, p.39. London: Sage), authors Cavadino and Dignan say the primitive sense of the justÔÇöremarkably constant from several ancient cultures to modern institutions…starts from the notion that a human life…is a vulnerable thing, a thing that can be invaded, wounded, violated by another’s act in many ways.

“For this penetration, the only remedy that seems appropriate is a counter invasion, equally deliberate, equally grave,” they argue. “And to right the balance truly, the retribution must be exactly, strictly proportional to the original encroachment. It differs from the original act only in the sequence of time and in the fact that it is response rather than original actÔÇöa fact frequently obscured if there is a long sequence of acts and counteracts.”

But the most frequent and fascinating are the revenge acts directed at friends, lovers and spouses when they part under not-so-good conditions.

“When I found out that my wife had been having an affair and was going to leave me, I nearly went over the edge,” confessed one man who went on to start WWW.Get revenge on your “Hurt, anger and pure rage coursed through my soul. I needed to do something – to save my own sanity and make my ex wife pay for the pain that she caused.
”That’s when I discovered the pure joy of getting revenge – and now you can join in the fun.”

The site then goes on to suggest a series of “secrets of how to get revenge anonymously, effectively and legally” on your ex.

Of course, he wants to be paid so one would have to pay to get the revenge ideas he talks about. He wants to be paid to tell you how to inflict the most painful revenge on the mother or father of your children.

“I, alone, can offer you years of personal experience,” he touts his mean attitude. “I have been where you are right now and I have helped countless others get their revenge and move on to a much better place.”
Women are not to be outdone.
A site, says that it gives ‘Revenge Advice’.

“Revenge Lady gives advice on using the ancient art of revenge to bring humour and happiness back to your life,” she states. “Come rediscover this traditional code of honour. Revenge advice. It’s justice, plain and simple.”
On the same site, one can purchase the book, ‘The Woman’s Book Of Revenge’ by Christine Ghallagher “to get even when Mr. Right turns out to be all wrong.”
“Revenge is a healthy natural impulse – a lost art that needs to be mastered by every modern woman, a way to bring the scales of justice back into balance,” says Ms Ghallagher. “It’s far healthier than wolfing down an entire chocolate cake and far more affordable than blabbing to a therapist.”
She says “a creative act of revenge can be the first step on the road to recovery.”

But is revenge necessary or healthy since it punishes you by pinning you down on a situation that has long evaporated? If the planned revenge succeeds, it puts an end to any possible reconciliation.

It also involves and affects the people on both sides of that now dead relationship. How do your former friends and relatives react to the little war smoldering between the two former lovers? They may have to take sides and thereby enlarging the circling of hate.

On a sidebar on the women’s revenge pool is a short reference to Al Fayed, the Egyptian tycoon whose son, Dodi, perished in the infamous car crash with Princess Diana.
“Al Fayed accepts Inquest resolution in the death of Princess Diana but is “leaving revenge to God”.

And just below it, the writers make reference to the just concluded divorce between former Beatle Paul McCartney and estranged wife Heather Mills. The more than fifty million pounds she got as a divorce settlement, it says under the headline ‘Heather’s Revenge on Sir Paul McCartney’, is more than enough revenge.
“Enough already!” the ladies page shouts. “Fasten your seat belts and you might survive a car crash.”

It was Mahatma Gandhi who said that an eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.


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