For some time now, women footballers have been wrongly or rightly associated with lesbianism.
This prejudicial view has led to some parents refusing to allow their girl children to actively take football as a sport of choice.
With the issue being a sensitive one, it comes as no surpirise that some within the football fraternity would rather speak in hushed tones when asked to address it.
One man has however stood up to openly talk about the issue. Oaitse Moeti, the head coach and founder of Mexican Girls is that man.
As the coach of young girls, Moeti is known not to bite his tongue when discussing lesbianism in football.
According to the Mexican Girls coach, the issue of sexuality is very tricky more so that it is associated with discrimination and stereotype.
Be that as it may, his club, Mexican Girls, does not condone the idea of girls being tomboys and lesbians and they are not going to change anytime soon.
As a club, Mexican Girls’ is actively involved in the grassroots and most of its players are below the age of 20-years.
“Before we bring in anyone to our club, we tell them about our policy that we do not want tomboys or lesbians because we want women to embrace their femininity,” he says.
Moeti says he has nothing against lesbians, but, says because of the distorted view of women football as a sport for Lesbians, finding young talent becomes a problem.
It is therefore no little wonder that some parents, at the recommendation of others within football, take their little girls to Mexican Girls for football.
“I do understand what parents are saying; we take children from them as normal girls once they start playing football they change and they do not want that,” he explains.
Because of their policy on Lesbianism, Moeti says Mexican Girls does not actively partake in transfer window but rather develop girls football players from the young age of 7years old.
They do this because the little once no nothing about relationships mostly sexual relationships, making it simple to teach them right women football is not a semi-man ball game but a game meant for women as women.
“The painful part about this issue is that the society plays a vital role in discriminating women football emphasizing that they are lesbians and it is something that needs to change,” he says.
“The community says it supports women football but when they come to watch them play, they would be on the stands saying ‘tota lesbian e dirang’ or ‘o bone lesbian ele gore e tshameka bolo bogale yang’ what is that?” Moeti asks rhetorically.
Adding that, they just want to play football and not change anyone’s sexual orientation.
“We promote good behaviour at Mexican girls. Even for our players who are 20 years and older, we do not encourage them to bring their boyfriends to the fields. We are avoiding the young ones from being clouded by what their older teammates are doing but for them to retain their innocent minds,” he explains.
Moeti however notes that Mexican Girls will only accept a lesbian player if they come with their parents and speak to the team management about their child’s sexuality.
Until then, Moeti says no Mexican Girls’ player will openly participate in this trend of being a tomboy or lesbian.
While he cannot deny there can be lesbianism within his team, Moeti says none of the team players have openly showcased this out of respect for the set team policies on the matter.
“We have had only one player, who, after leaving the club, came to me and confessed she was lesbian,” he says.
During our conversation, she told me she regrets being a lesbian, hence she decided to ditch lesbianism.”
Moeti says the conversation left him in no doubt that most of the players are not born lesbians but rather conform to many reasons; one of them being to fit in.
In his time in women football, he says he saw many girls turn lesbian, only to ditch the practice later on.
The Mexican Girls coach says at any given time, he speaks with his players on all issues, including sexuality and careers.
“I do ask them what they want to be in future, some doctors, some teachers, some football coaches and all having the desire that women football should continuity to generations to come,” he says.
“I also ask them, ‘how will it continue if you are all lesbians?’ You will not have kids. So, who are you going to teach at schools? who are you going to coach? Who will assist women during childbirth? These are meant for them to look at the choices they make,” Moeti says.