Why do bad things happen to good people?
If the Lord really cares about us, then why does he allow innocent people to suffer everyday?
They say that God’s favourites have it the hardest. The truth of that statement is unclear but what is indisputable is that hardships make people stronger and wiser; struggle teaches people that they can overcome anything if they just put their minds to it.
Console yourself with the fact that no matter how tough your life is, there’s always someone who has it worse than you do. Inspire yourself with the fact that there are millions of people who’ve overcome being displaced from their countries by war, living in abject poverty or even losing most of their families to violence.
Achieving the things you really want to achieve is hard; that’s what makes them special. If everything were easy, there would be no dreams left to chase so there would be no reason to live because a life without passion is a waste. The best way to live is to constantly keep challenging ourselves so we can grow the strength we need to overcome our biggest challenges. Think of the historical figures you admire the most and realise how all of them overcame extraordinary hardship in their own special way. That’s one of the reasons we admire them so much.
It’s a wonder how whenever we face hardship, we ask: “Why is this happening to me?” but we never ask the same question when we experience happiness. We’ve somehow convinced ourselves that life should always be filled with joy, and never pain, but the truth is that life isn’t concerned with your happiness, your successes or failures. It constantly moves forward, in whichever path it wishes, whether you choose to move with it or not.
Life never goes exactly the way you hoped it would but that doesn’t mean you should give up because often during the course of chasing one dream, you find your true calling and lead a life you never would have been able to if you hadn’t failed at your first dream.
You have to learn to take the good with the bad because in the grander scheme of things, as painful as it may be, losing a loved one could be the best thing that ever happened to you.
You’ve probably heard the saying that what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger. Pain and hardship mould you into a person of strength and integrity. Mother Theresa once said, “I know God will not give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish he didn’t trust me so much.”
To help rise above our circumstances and become the people we want to be, we can try to understand some human concepts defined in many motivational books. Probably the two most important of these concepts for rising above adversity are those of creative imagination and independent will.
Independent will is our capacity to act. It gives us the power to transcend our condition, to act based on principle rather than reacting based on emotion or circumstance. While environmental or genetic influences may be very powerful, they do not control us. We’re not victims. We’re not the product of our past. We are the product of our choices. We are responsible ÔÇô able to respond, to choose beyond our moods and tendencies. We have will power to act on self-awareness, conscience and vision.
Creative imagination is the power to envision a future state, to create something in our mind, and to solve our deepest problems. It’s the endowment that allows us to see others and ourselves differently and better than we are now. It enables us to write a personal mission statement, set a goal, or plan a meeting. It also empowers us to visualise ourselves living our mission statement even in the most challenging circumstances, and to apply principles in effective ways in new situations.
The right attitude for facing adversity was once summed up beautifully by the Reverend Dr. Peter Marshall with the words; “When we long for life without difficulties, remind us that oaks grow strong in contrary winds and diamonds are made under pressure”.