Saturday, August 13, 2022


Are you wise?

I mean, do you always have the capacity to judge what’s best for you; or how your actions impact the lives of people around you?

Most of us believe that we’re wise; and that we know, more-or-less, what we want. Yet while we can rattle off a long list of opportunities that we’d like to be blessed with, we rarely stop to think about whether or not we can handle them.

Part of wisdom is knowing just how much we don’t know. No matter how smart we are, we’re limited in our understanding.

Do you know that it’s possible to really want something that would hurt us in the long run? Just because we desire something, it doesn’t mean it’s good for us. Some of us spend time obsessing over people or things that, if they were to materialise in our lives, would bring us untold misery.

Often, due to our lack of wisdom or larger vision, God intervenes and doesn’t grant our requests because they’re not the absolute best thing for us. I’m talking about the guy who dumps you just when you think he’s about to marry you; or the promotion that you were expecting, that goes to someone else you feel is less deserving. We can’t always understand ‘why,’ but it’s because God knows that we deserve so much more.

Other times, what we want takes a little longer than we might like to materialise. This is because other important aspects of our lives are still falling into place, to enable our personal circumstances to be able to accommodate what we want perfectly.

The thing that keeps us from getting frustrated, or losing faith, is wisdom. Yet our own wisdom is never enough. Truly wise people know this, so they seek supernatural wisdom, God’s wisdom, to lead fulfilling lives.

When we seek and possess supernatural wisdom, the Greater Plan of our lives is revealed to us. We don’t simply ask for amazing career opportunities; we ask, and are shown, the bigger picture of how that Plan impacts the world around us.

Whatever it is you do, ask God to give you the wisdom to do it exceedingly well. Ask for the brilliance to execute your craft in a way that is second to none. Ask to be able to communicate your love for your family not just in words, but through your actions. Ask for friendships that will endure; and help you be your best. With supernatural, Godly wisdom, you can have all of this, and more.

Some of us have big dreams but don’t have the wisdom to see them through. Others of us, while we achieve our dreams, realise they don’t fill the void within us as we expected. We can accumulate many blessings; however, no blessing is a true blessing unless it is accompanied by the gift of wisdom.

Follow King Solomon’s example and make it your priority to seek wisdom. Solomon, will forever go down in history as the wisest, and perhaps richest, King. But life was not all smooth sailing for him.

For starters, although Solomon had a royal upbringing, his life was not without its tribulations. When he ascended the throne, he inherited an unholy mess from his father, King David. Solomon himself was the product of an initially illicit affair between King David and his erstwhile concubine, Bathsheba; later made right when David ‘put a ring on it.’

As a child growing up in the King’s palace, Solomon was surrounded by multiple step-mothers; and half brothers and sisters. He experienced more than his fair share of family drama when, in a bizarre, incestuous act, his half-brother Amnon raped his half-sister, Tamar. Tamar’s brother, Absalom, later avenged his sister by murdering Amnon. However, in another twist of events, Absalom’s tempestuous nature later lead him to mount a botched coup against his own father, David, ultimately resulting in his death.

If most of us had to go through even half of what Solomon went through, we’d have to be institutionalised. We don’t have the wisdom to cope with that level of dysfunction and catastrophe. And neither did Solomon. The difference is, Solomon knew his shortcomings, so when he was made King, he sought supernatural help.

One night, when God appeared to Solomon and said, “Ask for whatever you want me to give you;” Solomon didn’t ask for a Jaguar XF, or a super model wife. He said to God, “Give me wisdom and knowledge, that I may lead this people.”

For him, wisdom was “more precious than rubies.” It’s interesting to note that through his gift of wisdom, Solomon also accumulated and managed masses of wealth; and peaceably courted a thousand wives.

Is there anyone who doesn’t want untold success and the wisdom to manage it?

We’re told that, “if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” (James 1:5)

Many of us lack wisdom and don’t even realise it. We make bad decisions that affect many lives without a moment’s hesitation. We fail to use our power honourably. We’re gifted with rare and remarkable talents but don’t know how to shine. We amass great wealth and with it, great problems. We can’t manage our possessions or the situations we’re faced with.

To live a great life, ask God to give you wisdom. Before you speak, or act, ask if it is wise; and whether it serves God and His highest vision for you.

Remember, being clever doesn’t translate into being wise. Prioritise true wisdom; and you’ll create a legacy that you can be proud of!

*Primrose Oteng is a Master of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) and the Founder of the ‘Positive Peace Project,’ an organization dedicated to creating positive change through personal empowerment. Join us for a workshop on ‘Positivity Power!’ on 18 February 2012 at Bluetree from 3-5pm. Tickets on sale at the Riverwalk Information Desk; and online at


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