Wednesday, August 17, 2022

Perfect Love!

Love – quite possibly the most delicious feeling in the world! If you ask people about the times in their lives when they were happiest, most will probably point to when they were in love!

The Bible tells us that, in life, “three things will last forever ÔÇô faith, hope, and love ÔÇô and the greatest of these is love.” In other words, love matters; it has a deep and enduring impact on our lives.

Did you know that human beings are biologically programmed to find other human beings the most important objects in the world; and to form attachments with them? This doesn’t mean that we can’t find happiness as individuals, but research shows that our greatest happiness comes from our relationships with other people.

We can all readily appreciate the benefits that such loving relationships bring: think of how your family takes care of you when you’re sick; how they lovingly forgive your transgressions; and how they’re keenly interested in the milestones of your life ÔÇô love, whether romantic or platonic, brings a greater sense of intimacy, security and enjoyment into our lives. If fact, it can be a matter of life and death.

In a 1950 study carried out by John Bowlby for the World Health Organisation, concerning the mental health of orphaned children, Bowlby concluded that “children reared in orphanages, even where their basic needs for food were met, suffered if they lacked the opportunity to form an enduring emotional bond.” Indeed, some of the children who grew up in orphanages died from a lack of love.
Similarly, in 1965, a scientist named Harlow raised some rhesus monkeys in complete isolation.

After a year, the monkeys had become fearful and withdrawn, engaging in bizarre behavior and failing to interact normally. Studies conducted later showed that these problems could be fixed if the deprived monkeys were taught to interact with monkeys that had been normally raised. The same has been found to be true of human children.

So regardless of your starting point in life, you can reverse any effects of the early deprivation of love, by creating supportive environments in your life today.

Taking the time to cultivate loving connections benefits everyone. It is not simply about ensuring that our material needs are met; it’s necessary because as humans, we’re programmed to become attached to adult caregivers; and we suffer when this attachment is not met.

Yet many of us fear attachments. They make us feel vulnerable and at the mercy of other people. But even if you’re scared, remember: developing meaningful connections is one of the most positive ways we can increase our happiness. Nobody reaches their full potential in isolation.

While it’s possible to make money and gain prominence through our singular efforts, in order to flourish, we must develop warm and trusting relationships. Even the most successful people in the world will tell you that their success is made sweeter by having loved ones to share it with. Love is life-giving; it makes us whole!

Pure, unconditional love really is the key to happiness. Consider this story of a woman, who came out of her house and saw three old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. Although she didn’t recognize them, she approached them and said, “I don’t know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat.”

“Is the man of the house home?” they enquired.
“No,” she responded. “He’s out.”

“Then we can’t come in,” they replied.

Later that evening, when her husband came home, she told him what had happened. “Go and tell them that I’m home and invite them in,” he said.

So the woman went out and invited the men in but, to her surprise, they said, “We don’t go into a house together.”
“Why is that?” she enquired.

So one of the old men explained, “His name is Wealth,” he said pointing to one of his friends, and pointing to the other one he said, “He is Success, and I am Love.” Then he added, “Please go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home.” So the woman went in and told her husband what was said.

Her husband, burdened by a six figure mortgage and private school tuition fees, was overjoyed! “How nice!” he mused. “Let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with money!”

But his wife disagreed. “Darling, why don’t we invite Success?” By her reckoning, ultimately, everyone wanted success in life, so they couldn’t go wrong by inviting him in.

Yet their youngest son, Thero, who was listening quietly from a corner of the house, chimed in: “Wouldn’t it be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!”

“Let us heed our son’s advice,” said the husband to his wife. “Go out and invite Love to be our guest.”

So once again, the woman dutifully went out and enquired of the three old men: “Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.” So Love got up and started walking toward the house and, to her astonishment, Wealth and Success followed him!

The lady turned to Wealth and Success and said: “I don’t mean to be rude; and there’s enough food for everyone, but I only invited Love, so why are you coming in?”

The three old men replied together: “If you had invited Wealth or Success, the remaining two of us would’ve stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever Love goes, Success and Wealth follow him!”

Love is perfect! It is God in manifestation. Don’t underestimate its power in your life; it has a life-changing, life giving force and without love, we are nothing:

“Though I…understand all mysteries and all knowledge…but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor…but have not love, it profits me nothing.” (Corinthians: 13)
Have a wonderful week full of love!

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