Don’t you sometimes wish that we all had the Pinocchio effect and that our noses would grow with every lie we uttered?
Well maybe we don’t wish that for ourselves but for the next person whom we suspect to be deceiving us through lies!
While we can’t really have a genie to grant us this wish, it is true that there are traits to look out for in a liar.
Some ancient tribe in Kenya is said to have used an egg to tell if someone was telling the truth, apparently if that egg breaks in your hands during interrogation, you are guilty, and it’s not for breaking that egg!
Today’s technology has come with devices referred to as lie detectors that are used to determine if one is not telling the truth.
With that, there also exist thousands of theories that could help you “catch a liar”!
And specialists who deal with the mind have backed the theories with body signs. I have watched and enjoyed movies about detectives catching out liars by simply asking them to repeat the event of their day by merely reciting them backwards.
The rule of theory here is: if you recite them as they happened first but fail to do backwards, you are lying!
Interesting, isn’t it?
To many, catching a liar is just a pipe dream, an impossibility, while to some it’s as easy as detecting your tone, spotting a change in facial expression or the way you handle yourself when being interrogated; and this seems so easy, especially between lovers or people who have a relationship.
A mother and child for example, how many times did you ever get away with breaking a cup and lying about it to your mother’s face?
I thought so, you barely ever did!
I never forget the beatings I got from my mother every time I tried to lie to her about something. I always had to run and report to her my mistake before she found out and started asking me about it.
I used to hate how she always caught me out. I and everyone else should hate it if people know we are lying just because we touched our nose or shrugged a shoulder before responding to their enquiries.
Isn’t it interesting, however, how the rules and theories about detecting lies ignore other emotions and actions in the human body?
You might just be sweating because you are nervous about something that happened prior to being interrogated about whatever you are being accused of, or maybe the change in voice and tone can also be due to nervousness. Some people, whether guilty or not, tend to just be nervous because of having to endure the toll of being asked relentless questions.
A cute but realistic example is what happens when you are being interviewed for a job. You shake and sweat all at the same time, your voice is dry and squeaky and you fail to control the voice of your volume, but that does not mean you are lying!
Also the break of sweat (because you are nervous) can give you an itchy nose, hence the scratch, and maybe because you are nervous and rattling like a scared 5-year-old girl can have you clutch both hands into fists, and all because you want to maintain some dignity by hiding the fact that you are shaking!
Other experts say that looking down while being interrogated could mean you are lying, while some have argued that it could just mean you might just be ashamed of something that has to do with what you are being asked and not exactly with what you are being asked! It wouldn’t be fair to ignore the other possibility!
I for one sometimes avoid eye contact when being interrogated, not because I am lying, but because I hate it when someone plays psycho and stares into my eyes “looking for the truth”, it’s uncomfortable and annoying to say the least. The other reason is mainly because I don’t like being on the other end of the interview table, and yes, I do shake like that 5-year-old-girl.