Saturday, May 18, 2024

50 Shades of Grey an unrealistic portrayal of love

There has been hype in the past recent days, an excitement of some sort in the air and a selling out of movie tickets during the Valentine’s weekend. And this hype has once again been about a movie based on a book about sex and a ‘perfect’ romance between Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele, a relationship that hardly exists in real life. A relationship that makes all women envious and hopeful that such a fantasy exists.

I am one amongst many people who believe and is hopeful that such a fantasy exists, thanks to romantic movies and Mills & Boon novels. If you haven’t found it you just have to sit down and accept the fact that you do not make up part of the group that is the exception. But there are people out there who don’t know what 50 Shades of Grey is. Recently, an older cousin asked me what 50 Shades of Grey is and the only explanation I could give her was, “It’s a movie adaptation of a 3-series book that also caused hype sometime ago. The book is basically about a wealthy man who likes Sadomasochism which is painful sex that can involve being tied and beaten up during sex. This man falls in love with the young women whom he had hired to have this painful sex with. There is more sex in the book than normal real conversations and walks on the beach scenes. Every conversation leads to passionate sex. It gets boring to be honest.”

I didn’t tell her that the man showered the girl with expensive gifts including an expensive Audi. But I didn’t forget to tell her that I was still struggling through the second book. I know sex is the in-thing, but it gets tiring reading sex scene after sex scene. Maybe I am grown up and since I am approaching 30 it makes me wish for a less sexual and a more realistic novel. Maybe it’s because I have read all of Sidney Sheldon’s books more times than I care to remember and these books make 50 Shades of Grey seem like pornography. I don’t believe most women enjoyed the book as much as they claim. They just claim to have liked it because it is the in thing and marketing executives are great at selling happily ever afters especially during the Valentine’s period. And these days it’s easier to fit in than to be the odd one out.

One woman posted on Facebook that this is a false and phony book that makes women hope for something or someone who doesn’t exist. And she concluded by saying that that’s why most women are single. Like I said I am not a non-believer in love, but I believe that watching romantic movies and reading Mills and Boon novels escalated my belief that most men are perfect. And singing out Celine Dion songs in my highest voice did not help the situation of my perception of what love is. Her songs only escalated my imaginary heartache at the age of 11 after I had written down the lyrics of Think Twice after many pauses and plays of the radio.


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