Wednesday, July 24, 2024

Inside the mind of a stalker: woman’s point of view

Let’s face it, there is a little bit of stalking tendencies in all of us.
Of course, we might not be willing to admit it because some of us have taken it a bit too far thus making the rest of us stalkers look bad.

We have seen movies where people get really obsessive with a person they took interest in, to a point where they watch their every move in a creepy manner, call them on the phone and breathe heavily, hack into their emails and find out every little detail of their lives while the person remains unaware.

That’s not the stalking I am talking about.

This article is in reference to a normal human being’s curiosity about a subject they have taken interest in; in this case we are referring to the opposite gender.

The first thing we do as modern and modest human beings, (this is from a woman’s point of view) when we come across someone we like but are too scared to approach, is to find out more of what we can about the person, his life, his friends, what he likes, where he usually hangs out, etc.

This could lead to some of us becoming friendly with his cousins, relative or friends so that we have a chance of being introduced to him.

Some, of course, would be using the friends to milk information about him in a very non-incriminating manner, which could be a way of finding out whether he is single, whether he is boyfriend material or a player, where he prefers to hang out and all other useful information.

Without the stress and added effort of hustling friendship with his closest friends, a stalker’s dream has now been created with the arrival of Facebook and a couple of other social networks.
I guarantee that one can almost always find anyone they are looking for on Facebook and find out a lot about them in their profile pages.

People basically lay out their lives on Facebook, with their millions of pictures telling stories of their own.
Some even place their direct cell numbers on the web for the convenience of their long lost relatives or friends but without privacy settings the number is available to anyone who is a member of the social network.

That is a plus for us, girl stalkers, who will take the number and confidently believe that we would be able to call it and ask for a date.

“There is nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out on a date; I mean this is the 21st century,” one would try to reason with themselves, that is when they decide to call and when the guy answers, the mind goes blank and courage goes out the window and they decide to hang up.

As if not to add to the creepiness, the line would be a private number, so yes girls too do have stalking tendencies.

Did I talk about the ones who would hang around the places where they know he likes to hang out, hoping that maybe if he looked in their direction he might be interested in what he sees?
He usually doesn’t notice she is there or he is just occupied with something else.

That makes a girl want the guy more and she doesn’t give up her efforts to get to him but she won’t come to him for fear of rejection.

So when she gets back home, she checks his Facebook profile to see what he has been up to.

“Is it really stalking if all I am doing is going through all his friends’ list and checking to see if he has any pretty girls as friends, who I will slowly hate plus it’s not like I am sending him creepy messages,” one would try to reason.

Some girls would even have pictures of you that you don’t remember taking on their bedroom walls.

Write about you in their diaries, tell their friends about you, but just like everything else, once they meet you and discover that you are not so perfect they will move on to the next victim without you even knowing that someone knew you better than you knew yourself.

Well, that is girls, modest but crazy, and then there are some who don’t know when to stop, the ones that know you have a girlfriend but will call you nonetheless.

They would comment on every one of the 200 pictures you have posted on Facebook, write on your wall everyday and call you to ask stupid things every day.

Those are the ones who are not in control of their stalkerish behaviour; they will ask your friends to hook you up with them and give you hints that you can’t miss and sms you telling you how much you belong together.
Shame on them.

These are also the most dangerous, as they are desperate and opportunists. To them, guys who hang out in pubs are the easiest prey.

They would research about you until they know each and every place you visit, and they will make sure they are always there.

They will wait for you to get drunk out of your mind, which is what boys of today normally thrive on. Once they see you are out of it, they will come and strike a normal conversation with you; next thing you wake up next to them and they will be telling you how much they love you and how they would love to have your baby. Once you are there, there is no escape.

Every woman that comes into your life will be threatened and they will run away from your psycho baby mama.
This is just to say next time when you log onto your Facebook or Myspace profile just be aware of how much you give away.

Either way even if you are careful, women will always have a way of getting what they want.

I just wanted you to be aware; it’s no longer a men’s world.


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